The Best of Times, the Worst of Times: Navigating Summer with a Child on the Autism Spectrum
For many families, summer brings a welcome break from the daily grind—no early morning alarms, no rushing out the door, and plenty of time for fun in the sun. For some parents of children with autism, this season feels like a gift: more freedom, more bonding time, and fewer demands from school routines. But for other parents, especially those in single-parent households or without access to supportive resources, summer can feel like a never-ending challenge.
Without the structure of school, summer days can become unpredictable and overwhelming. For children on the spectrum who thrive on routine, the shift can be disruptive, leading to meltdowns, sleep disturbances, and heightened anxiety. And for parents already juggling multiple responsibilities, the added pressure of keeping their child engaged and regulated can be exhausting.
So how can we find a balance? How can we make summer more manageable—and even enjoyable—for all families living with autism?
Here are six practical tips to help you navigate the highs and lows of summer:
1. Create a Visual Schedule
While school may be out, structure doesn’t have to be. A visual schedule can help your child understand what’s happening each day, which reduces anxiety and fosters a sense of security. You don’t need anything fancy—just a simple chart with images or words showing activities like meals, playtime, screen time, and bedtime. Try to keep some elements consistent each day, like a morning walk or afternoon quiet time.
2. Plan for Downtime
Summer doesn’t have to be packed with activities. In fact, children with autism often need more downtime to self-regulate. Don’t feel pressured to recreate a Pinterest-worthy summer full of crafts and field trips. It’s okay to slow down. Build in quiet time after stimulating activities and create a calming space in your home where your child can decompress.
3. Explore Community Resources
Many communities offer summer programs tailored to children with special needs, including camps, sensory-friendly movie showings, and adaptive swim lessons. These programs can be a lifeline—offering social interaction for your child and a breather for you. Don’t be afraid to ask around or reach out to local autism organizations to see what’s available.
4. Embrace Predictable Fun
If spontaneous outings lead to stress, stick with activities your child already enjoys and knows well. Revisit favorite parks, go on nature walks, or have theme days at home (like “Water Wednesday” with sprinklers or “Foodie Friday” where you cook something together). Familiarity often equals fun without the fuss.
5. Connect with Other Parents
Summer can feel isolating, especially for single parents or families without strong support systems. Make an effort to connect with other autism parents, whether it’s through social media groups, local meetups, or texting a friend who “gets it.” Sharing ideas, venting, and laughing together can make the season feel more doable.
6. Remember: This Phase Will Pass
If this summer feels more chaotic than carefree, take heart. With each year, many children on the spectrum grow more adaptable and independent. What feels impossible now may become manageable—or even enjoyable—in the years ahead. Hold onto that hope. You’re not alone, and things can get easier with time, growth, and patience.
Whether summer feels like a blessing or a burden, remember that every family’s journey with autism is different. Give yourself grace. Celebrate the small wins. And know that whether you’re splashing in the pool or just surviving another day, you’re doing enough.
With a little planning, a bit of flexibility, and a whole lot of love, this summer can be meaningful—no matter how it looks.